Let’s start this week off with a little intervention shall we?

You’re not lazy.

You’re exhausted from deciding stupid crap all day.

Every menu.
Every Slack message.
Every half answered email.
Every "Do I really need to floss tonight?" debate. (You for sure should do that…)

It’s not your ambition that’s broken.
It’s your decision making battery.
And it’s dying faster than an iPhone 6 in 2025!

Here’s the truth:

If you don’t build a system to make decisions faster, cleaner, and stronger... you’ll hesitate your way through the life you actually want.

And I don’t know about you, but "death by hesitation" sounds like the lamest way to go out.

Let’s fix it.

Why You’re Stuck in Decision Hell

Your Brain Has a Finite Number of Good Choices Per Day

Studies show you only get about a couple hundred decent decisions a day before your brain turns into mashed potatoes.

Once that’s tapped out?

Welcome to "sure, I guess" mode.

Where dreams die quietly while you eat reheated nachos and binge watch House Hunters set in places you’ll never live, with homes bought by people with the wildest budget you’ve ever heard…

“Yes, my wife is a stay at home mom to our 2 huskies, I’m a local butcher… we’d like to stay modest at $1.5MM budget if that’s possible but could go up to $5MM if we need to.”

WTF… I’m in the wrong profession… I digress…

Big Choices Feel Big Because You Never Built a System

When every decision feels like an identity crisis (“What does it mean if I go left instead of right?”), you’re going to stall.

Indecision isn’t a lack of courage.

It’s a lack of clarity + structure.

You don’t need more bravery.

You need a better playbook.

Fear of Regret Is Running the Show

When you’re stuck, it’s almost never about the choice itself.

It’s about:

• Fear of screwing it up

• Fear of wasting time

• Fear of looking stupid

• Fear of future you sending a passive aggressive email back through time like, “Wow, real smart, genius.”

But here’s the kicker.

You’re already paying rent in the house of regret when you refuse to choose at all.

Standing still is a decision too, it’s just the crappiest one available.

The Regret Minimization Framework™ (Thanks, Jeff Bezos)

When Jeff Bezos was deciding whether to leave his cushy Wall Street job to build some weird online bookstore, he didn’t just "follow his gut."

He asked a simple question: “At 80 years old, will I regret NOT doing this?

If the answer is yes?

You GO.

If not?

You move on.

Clean. Fast. No dramatic breakup playlist required.

How to Use the Regret Minimization Framework in Real Life

(Without Needing a Billion Dollar Company as a Safety Net)

Step 1: Zoom Out to 80 Year Old You

Imagine yourself old. (Really old. Like, orthopedic shoes and suspiciously large sunglasses old.)

From that vantage point, ask:

• Will I regret not trying this?

• Will I regret playing it safe?

• Will I regret worrying what people think instead of just going for it?

Old you is wise, wrinkly, and does not give a single shit about LinkedIn endorsements.

Listen to them.

Respect your elders… even your future, elder self.

Step 2: Make Decisions on Regret, Not Fear

Fear screams loudest right before you grow.

But regret whispers slowly for decades.

You’ll almost never regret trying and failing.

You’ll almost always regret not betting on yourself.

That’s the law.

(Don’t believe me? Ask every 80 year old you know. Their answers will haunt you in the best way.)

Step 3: Build a "Default Yes" System

Unless there’s overwhelming evidence that it's a bad call, your default for big moves should be YES.

You can course correct later.

You can pivot.

You can change your mind.

But you can’t get back the time you wasted trying to be "sure."

Clarity isn’t granted.

It’s earned by moving.

Make It Stick: Your Challenge This Week

This week’s move:

• Pick one decision you’ve been dragging your feet on.

• Run it through the Regret Minimization Framework.

• Make the call.

Yes or no.

Commit either way.

Burn the boats behind you.

Because standing still is the slowest, saddest way to die.

…like imagine that headline…

“Local Resident dies standing… doing nothing… just standing…”

That was tough to even write…

The Truth You’ve Been Avoiding

Most of your big choices don’t need more research.

They need more courage.

They need you to stop worshipping the illusion of "perfect certainty" and start betting on Future You like they’re already a legend.

Because guess what?

They are.

You just have to make the damn call.

Your Turn:

What’s one decision your future 80 year old self will high five you for finally making?

Hit reply and tell me. Let’s lock it in.

– Ned

P.S. Know someone stuck in "should I/shouldn’t I" purgatory? Forward this to them. They’ll thank you later… I’ll thank you immediately.